On my path in life I have been told this numerous times by those who have guided me along the way. When life is going smoothly, we can understand this and can breathe a luxurious sigh of relief. Feel happy, even. But when things are not going all that well, in one way or another, a fairly immediate response to that same statement sounds something like, “Seriously? This is exactly where I’m supposed to be?”
I don’t know where so many people got the idea that life should just sail along and bad things should never happen to us, but it’s a pretty commonly held belief at its core. Intellectually, we all know better, of course. Things happen. That’s life. But on some deeper emotional level, many of us are truly taken aback when life throws us the usual curves it dishes up. Somehow we should not really get injured or ill, certainly not seriously, (occasional colds being the understandable exception); we should not lose loved ones, nor have to suffer terrible financial hardship; everything in relationships should be able to be worked out to everyone’s satisfaction in the end; our children should be grateful and well-behaved; we should not lose our jobs; our homes should never catch fire, nor our cars break down in the middle of nowhere … these things just shouldn’t be happening. Right?
And yet they do. And in the midst of all the mess that is a part of life, I am repeatedly told that I am exactly where I am supposed to be. As are you.
I know when I step back that it’s true. I can’t control a great deal of what life brings to me, but I can control how I react to it, and in that, I AM exactly where I’m supposed to be. I’m in the ideal spot to look at a situation, grasp its reality, and respond to it in the highest and best way possible.
Every obstacle we meet in life can be looked at as an opportunity to grow, to further develop the abilities we have to handle life and everything in it with love, dignity and grace. Of course, we have the option to feel miserable, to whine, complain and throw tantrums, but when we’re done with that, having found it’s gotten us nowhere, we can still try and figure out why what’s happening is happening, why it’s such a challenge, and then do something about it.
So even as I will sometimes want to sit and whine and/or do nothing in the face of various challenges, I remind myself that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. And there may be a reason for that; I have something to learn. If it’s not a good place, what do I need to do to make it better? I can actually be grateful to be given this chance to grow.
It’s a different perspective … and surprisingly effective when given a try.
I totally agree, Jeanne. So beautifully and poignantly expressed 😀
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Thanks, Donna, and for the compliment, too!
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So true. So wise.
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That’s what’s supposed to happen as we get older, right? A little wisdom. At least hopefully …
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Yeah, not everybody gains wisdom but you have. I love this post because this is something I wrestle with every day. You are right~it really does help to remind myself that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, never mind where I THINK I am supposed to be. If I hurry up and learn whatever it is, then do I get to go? 🙂
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At least until the next lesson makes its appearance! It seems we get rests and then we’re brought to our next challenge, or we get to revisit the same one in another form. Keeping our heads in the right place isn’t always easy, but we can ask for help, too.
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You are so right. I often see what should by now be a familiar lesson, only disguised by new circumstances. ERK!
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Which, I assume, is actually a good thing, because it means we’re ready for our next level of growth. Of course, we can always choose not to deal with it, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to go away, either. 🙂
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