For the last couple weeks, there has been a small guest in my mailbox. While she hasn’t cheerily announced “You’ve got mail,” her appearance has been as regular as my e-mail. Each morning when I open the door of my mailbox to put in outgoing letters or later, to retrieve the incoming, she is perched on more of less the same spot each time. At night, however, she ventures out and builds a beautiful, circular web on an unusual angle between my neighbor’s and my adjoining mailboxes.
She is an orb-weaving spider, (so named for the typical circular webs they weave), and known as a cross spider or garden spider. (I looked her up on two of my favorite bug sites – What’s That Bug? and BugGuide.) I speak to her softly each time I see her, and she rarely moves away. Sometimes if I pull out a magazine or something large, she’ll back up a wee bit, or if I move to the other side to get a closer look, she may face me a bit defensively. But what is most amazing was realizing that she seems to actually know me.
A neighbor that I see often was walking by with her young son recently and we got to talking. Of course, he’s interested in bugs! I showed them the spider. She was fine with me nearby, but when they came to look – and they were no closer than I’ve ever been – she got up and hid. I checked when they had left, she came back out. I feel honored.

Now she’s protecting a little cotton-y puff of spiders-to-be on the inside of the mailbox door. I still talk to her, but don’t stay long. She looks a little less filled out than I think is normal, and it doesn’t look like she built her web last night. Perhaps this is what motherhood is like for spiders and she’ll stay with her egg puff until they’re born. She’s really quite pretty with a lovely pattern on her back and shaded legs.
I don’t know how long she will be keeping an eye on my mail, but I do enjoy the opportunity of seeing this little spider each day.
Update: 5/29/09 – Today is the first day I have not seen the little guardian of my mail. Yesterday, she seemed tired, and it almost appeared as if a back leg were missing. I couldn’t tell. I did a visual search all about the mailbox a short while ago, no luck. Perhaps her job is done.